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Questions For HIM Questions Every Filipina Should Ask A Potential Foreign Pen Pal Before Agreeing To Marriage A note to the gentleman being asked to answer these questions: This list of questions was created by Bob Lingerfelt of ASAWA (www.filipinawives.com) and may be distributed and copied freely. These are questions which, based on my years of experience in this field, I think most Filipinas want to ask, or should ask, of any foreigner who desires a relationship with her. I made this list because many Filipinas are too polite to ask these questions themselves, in letters. Or the questions may simply never occur to them, even though the answers will have great bearing on any potential relationship. Some men may oppose the questions about money, careers, etc., using the often-abused cliché that love is more important than money. True, there must be love for any relationship to work. But statistics indicate that money is the number one cause of arguments between a husband and a wife. Also, in any culture, one of the primary things a woman looks for in a husband is his ability to provide a decent home for her and any future children. A man’s qualifications as a provider, his ability to guarantee a safe and secure home, are paramount. Money is nothing without genuine love, but love is unquantifiable, so I can’t address that in this list. But financial security can be fairly and promptly determined through a series of simple questions. Also, keep in mind that the U.S. government DOES care about a man's financial situation, and requires that he make a certain percentage of income above the national poverty limit before petitioning for a visa for a foreign wife or fiancee. Finally, a gentleman who is courting a woman from his own country is being evaluated in a similar fashion - just in person, instead of in writing. If you are an American, for example, dating an American girl, or an Aussie dating an Aussie girl, your girlfriend has the luxury of seeing your home, visiting your place of work, seeing how you handle money, how you dress, how you interact with your family and friends. She has a reasonable idea of your income, your hopes and dreams, your likes and dislikes. While she may not present you with a list like the one below, she could easily answer most of the questions based simply on her own experience with you. A Filipina cares just as much about these issues, of course, but is deprived the lengthy, personal courting process that a domestic girlfriend experiences, and thus a Filipina should not be scorned for asking questions about aspects of your life that she has no other way of gaining knowledge of. Certainly, she would prefer to learn these things on her own, in person, over the course of several months or years, but in a penpal relationship, this is simply not possible. Of course, if any man is really opposed to any of these questions, he's not “required” to answer them. A note to the Filipinas who intend to use this list: Obviously, there's no way to guarantee the answers you receive to these questions are honest, so use your own judgment when evaluating any foreigner who agrees to complete the questionnaire. If you like, you can cross out the questions you don't want to ask, or you can make your own list using the one below as inspiration. Good luck! 1. What
is your height and weight?
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